Relationships are tough. A long distance one is even harder on the soul. Would I have made the same decisions to try and be with you? Yeah, I would. Something I’ve tried to be better with is stop regretting. Obviously this sucks, and maybe to an extent it’s all my fault. Walking into this relationship blindly when there were variables that I never considered. Now one of those x and o’s, closing the distance, is coming back to bite us. Unless a miracle happens, I honestly don’t think I’ll be able to get a job in Canada (as an American). Even though I’m in a good field (tech), I’m just not talented as those Silicon Valley Engineers. Even when I’m doing interview prep, it’s just crazy how I can never come to these solutions alone. Yet, why am I not studying harder? What’s the alternative? Moving to the border, but then we’ll still be long distance. In terms of financially, it doesn’t make a lot of sense to move closer to you but still be long distance. Yet, I wonder when we are left with no options left, if you’ll let that one slide.
Maybe, I’m just being selfish. I’m holding onto something that isn’t mine anymore. We may love each other so much, but our foundation is built on a house of cards. This is one of those persistent thoughts in the back of my head. That no matter how much I may love you, I cannot give you what you need. I’m still growing and learning as an adult, and I can’t ask you to gamble on me. There are days where I tell myself that yeah, I see myself as being fully independent and being able to live happily with you in a couple years. Then there are other days where I look at myself and say who am I kidding, I’m a lonely new grad living at home with his parents. Why would you wanna date a loser like me? Even I wouldn’t date a loser like myself. There are days I see you walking down the aisle, but I’m just a spectator. Maybe this is how I am coping with everything. By telling myself that even if I truly make her happy, I’m sure there’s someone else out there that can do 1000 times better than me.
We’re not over, not yet at least, and never I hope, but there are days where I wonder if I’m just dragging you along. If that turns out to be the case, I’m sorry.